How to Talk to Your Crush Without Being Crushed in Hindi

Yadi aapaka crush ek lambee kahaanee kah raha hai.aapake crush shuroo hone se pahale baat. aapakee crush aapako nahin lage ki aap svayan se bhare hue hain.

How to Talk to Your Crush Without Being Crushed

Ek crush  karen, lekin har baar jab aap unhen kuchh kahana chaahate hain to baahar nikalana? aap shaayad asveekaar karane se darate hain ya aap kuchh bevakooph kahenge. khair, khush ho jao! aapakee sambhaavana utanee kharaab nahin hai jitanee aapako lagata hai ki ve hain (vishesh roop se yadi aap aur aapake crush  pahale se hee dost hain). yaad rakhen, agar aap kuchh nahin karate hain, to aapakee sambhaavana shoony hogee. is baat ko dhyaan mein rakhate hue, apane crush  ke saath vaartaalaap karane ke lie taiyaar ho jao jo aapako crushed mein samaapt nahin hoga!

Method - 1

Setting the Stage

1.

Isase pahale ki aap andar jaen aur unase baat karen, thodee der mein rakhen. yah taiyaar hone ka bhugataan karata hai. aap adhyayan ke bina ganit pareekshan nahin lete hain, ya kaksha ke bina draivar ke ed test paas karate hain. jo log apane crush  jeetane mein samay aur vichaar daalate hain, unhen aam taur par jeetane mein behatar shot hota hai.

• Taiyaaree aur taiyaar hone ke beech ek achchhee santulan ko rokane kee koshish karen. aapakee crush  un atirikt dhyaanon ko pasand karatee hai jinhen aap unhen dena chaahate hain, lekin ve aisa mahasoos nahin karana chaahate hain ki aap pichhale teen dinon se har ek doosare ke baare mein soch rahe hon. yah thoda daraavana hai, bhale hee yah sach ho!

2.

Kuchh samay pahale aaraam karo. gaharee saans len aur apana poora shareer lamba hone den. jab aap saarvajanik nahin hote hain to yah kabhee-kabhee aasaan hota hai. sone ya sone ya ghar mein aane se pahale apane bistar mein aaraam karane ka prayaas karen.

3.

Bolane se pahale socho. aap apane ghabaraahat se adhik ho sakate hain - ya ise pooree tarah se khatm kar sakate hain - apane vikalpon par vichaar karane ke lie ek pal lekar. vaastav mein apane crush  ke kareeb aane se pahale ghar par abhyaas karen, aur aap chuppee ke ek ajeeb kshan mein pakade nahin jaenge. apana samay len, khaasakar yadi aap kisee aise vyakti par pahalee chhaap banaane vaale hain jo aapake lie mahatvapoorn hai.

• Darpan mein abhyaas karen. aap yah sunishchit karana chaahate hain ki aap jaanate hain ki aap kya kahane ja rahe hain, lekin ise achchhee tarah se abhyaas na karen. aisee kaee sthitiyon kee kalpana karen jinamen aapako apane crush  se baat karane ka mauka mile, aur inhen darpan ke saamane kaary karen. jitana adhik taiyaar ho, utana hee aatmavishvaas aap vaartaalaap ke dauraan honge.
• Isake saath maje karo. nishchit roop se, aap jo kahana chaahate hain usake gambheer sanskaranon ko aazamaen, lekin ise pooree tarah se moorkh tareeke se bhee kahen jo aapako hansata hai. jitana kam gambheer aap svayan lete hain, utana hee svaabhaavik hoga jab aap samay aaenge.

4.

Unake baare mein kuchh pata karane ke lie jao. dhyaan den ki unake notabuk mein unake paas kaun see tasveeren hain, ya ve dopahar ke bhojan par kya khaate hain, ya ve kaun se khel khelana pasand karate hain. in chhote lekin mahatvapoorn vivaranon ko jaanana aapako baad mein vaartaalaap karane mein madad karega. yah aapako kuchh kahane mein madad kar sakata hai:

• "mainne aapakee notabuk par un philmen dekhee hain. main 80 ke dashak se philmon ke baare mein hoon. kya aapake paas pasandeeda hai?"
• are, mere dost aur main skool ke baad kuchh pikap khelane ja raha tha. ho sakata hai ki aap isamen shaamil hona chaahate hain yadi aap isake lie taiyaar hain? "

5.

Apane aatmavishvaas ko badhaava dene ke lie abhinav tareeke khojen. Crushed  ke kaaran shaayad aapako darane ka kaaran yah hai ki isase aapake aatmavishvaas ko nukasaan pahunchaega. aisa hone do mat. yah sirph ek vyakti dvaara apane aatmavishvaas ko door karane ke lie paagal hai.  Aapaka  poora vishvaas is baat se aana chaahie ki aap apane baare mein kaisa mahasoos karate hain. to isase pahale ki aap vaastav mein apane crush  ko jaanana shuroo karen, apane aatmavishvaas ko badhaava dene ke tareeke khojen. is tarah, aap apane crush  ke lie aur adhik aakarshak honge aur kuchh bura hone par aapako crushed  nahin diya jaega.

• Apanee phesabuk deevaar ko dekho. adhyayanon se pata chala hai ki keval 3 minat ke lie aapakee phesabuk deevaar ko dekhakar aapake aatmavishvaas ko kaaphee had tak badhaaya ja sakata hai. yah aajamaane ke kaabil hai!
• Apane pita ke saath thoda sa samay bitaen. adhyayan yah bhee dikhaate hain ki kishor jo kishoraavastha ke dauraan apane pita ke saath adhik samay bitaate hain, ve kam kharch karane vaalon kee tulana mein adhik aatmavishvaas se baahar nikalate hain. not: apane crush  se baat karane se pahale kaee ghante pahale apane pita ke saath latakana sabase achchha hai. ye behatareen ke lie hai.

6.

Parinaam-svatantr banen. isaka kya matalab hai? isaka matalab hai ki khud ko aisee sthiti mein rakhen jahaan aapako paravaah nahin hai ki aapakee crush  aapako vaapas pasand karatee hai ya nahin. yah mahatvapoorn kyon hai? do kaaranon se yah mahatvapoorn hai. yah aapako asveekrti se nipatane mein madad karata hai, jo aakhirakaar aisa kuchh hai jo aapako karana hai. (yadi aap raaste mein kaheen bhee khaarij nahin ho rahe hain, to aap koshish nahin kar rahe hain.) aur doosaree baat yah hai ki isase Aapako apane crush  ke saath svasth sambandh milane mein madad milatee hai. ek suparaheero banane ke lie crush  banaane ke bajaay jo aapakee duniya mein sab kuchh bachaega, aap unhen saamaany, lekin vishesh, vyakti ke bajaay vyavahaar karate hain.

• kya? tum kaho. main aisa kyon karoonga? mere paas isaka niyantran bhee nahin hai. tum shaayad nahin. lekin kabhee-kabhee, ham apane crush  ke baare mein bahut sochate hain, aur ham kalpana karate hain ki unake saath jeevan kya hoga, ki ham apane kaalpanik khud ke saath asvaasthyakar sambandh vikasit karana shuroo kar dete hain. ye kaalpanik rishte itane asvaasthyakar ho jaate hain ki ham khud ko is vyakti ke bina hone kee kalpana nahin kar sakate hain, bina kisee any vyakti ko bhee jaanate hain.
• Yadi aap parinaam-svatantr hain, to aapaka aatmavishvaas badhata hai. yah bahut se logon ke lie aakarshak hai. aapako nahin lagata ki kisee bhee ladakee ya kisee ek ladake se khaarij hona ek bada sauda hai, aur isalie aap ise door kar dete hain. aapaka vishvaas ek vyakti ko asveekaar karane se bada hai.

Method - 2

Apana kadam banaana

1.

Jab aap akele hon to apane crush  par jaen. pahalee baar jab aap vyaktigat star par talk  karate hain to aapako ek vichalit sthiti mein hona chaahie, bina kisee any logon ko vichalit karane ke lie. udaaharan ke lie, lambee avadhi ke vaartaalaap ke lie daans phlor ka beech bahut achchha sthaan nahin hoga.

Kaipheteriya mein dopahar ke bhojan ke dauraan apane crush  par jaen. usase poochhen ki kya aap unake bagal mein baith sakate hain aur talk  shuroo kar sakate hain. yah aksar eemaanadaaree se us ke roop mein saral hai.

• Ek paartee mein apane crush  se baat karo. chaahe vah janmadin kee paartee ho ya pool paartee ho, yadi aap donon aamantrit hain, to aapase baat karane ka bahaana hai.
• Apane aapasee mitron mein se ek ke maadhyam se usake saath talk  karen. agar aap apane doston mein se ek ke saath dost hain, to dost ke paas jao aur baat karana shuroo karen, usake lie aapako kuchh kahana hai.

2.

Apana parichay do. yadi aap pahale hee aupachaarik roop se khud ko pesh kar chuke hain, to aapako bas itana karana hai ki ek saral "haay" ya "hailo" kahen. jab aap namaste kahate hain to seedhe aankhon mein apanee crush  ko dekhana yaad rakhen. yadi aap namaste kahakar apane joote par utarate hain to aap anajaane mein bahut kuchh kah rahe hain.

3.

Khud ke baare mein apane crush  se poochho. vichaar-vimarsh karane vaalee cheejen poochhen jo aapakee vartamaan sthiti se sambandhit hain- yadi aap thodee der ke lie baat karana chaahate hain to "kyon" aur "kaise" prashn aam taur par sarvottam hote hain. ye aksar gaharaee se charcha karate hain ki aap donon bhaag le sakate hain, jo ek crush  se baat karate samay aadarsh hai.

• Saral "haan" ya "nahin" prashnon se bachane ke lie yaad rakhen. yadi aap apane crush  se poochhate hain "kya aap kanaada mein skool gae the?" unhen aapako ek lamba javaab dene kee zaroorat nahin hai. yadi aap apane crush  se poochhate hain "kanaada mein skool jaane kee tarah kya tha?" ve bahut adhik baat karenge.
• Unhen apanee prshthabhoomi ke baare mein poochhen. ve kahaan se hain, unake maata-pita kya karate hain, ve kaise jaanate hain aadi. log, aapake crush  mein shaamil hain, khud ke baare mein baat karana pasand karate hain.

4.

Yadi aapaka crush  ek lambee kahaanee kah raha hai to kabhee-kabhee injekshan karana yaad rakhen. matalab kuchh savaal poochhate hain jabaki vah kahaanee kah raha hai. yah unhen dikhaega ki aap jo kahate hain us par dhyaan de rahe hain. yadi aap kahane ke lie ek kahaanee ke saath aate hain, to sunishchit karen ki aapake crush  shuroo hone se pahale baat karana samaapt ho gaya hai, aur ise chhota aur pyaara rakhen taaki aapakee crush  aapako nahin lage ki aap svayan se bhare hue hain.

5.

Apane shareer kee bhaasha par dhyaan den. aapakee bodee laingvej bahut se sanchaar karatee hai, chaahe aap ise chaahate hon ya nahin. kabhee-kabhee, aapaka shareer un cheejon ko kahata hai jo aap madad nahin kar sakate hain. lekin bahut samay, yadi aap jaanate hain ki aapaka shareer kya kah raha hai, to aap ise sahee kar sakate hain agar aapane kabhee ise dhokha diya hai. yahaan dhyaan dena hai ki:

• Aankh se sampark. aankhon ke sampark ko banaana aur rakh-rakhaav karana kahata hai ki aap ruchi rakhate hain ki doosare vyakti kya kah rahe hain.
• Unakee disha mein chehara. apane shareer ko unakee disha mein chehara den. isaka matalab hai ki aap jo kah rahe hain usamen ruchi rakhate hain aur sharmeelee nahin hain.
• muskurao. muskuraate hue kahate hain ki doosara vyakti aapako khush karata hai.
• Shareer kee bhaasha ke saath ishkabaaj. khaasakar yadi aap ek ladakee hain. dheere-dheere apanee palaken ballebaajee karen, apane baalon ko ghumaen, ya unake kandhe ko chhooen.
• Apane chutakule par hansate hue. bhale hee chutakule majaakiya nahin hain, muskurao aur apane crush  ko haasy karane ke lie apanee pooree koshish karen.

6.

Pik-up line  ka upayog na karen! aap jo kuchh bhee karate hain, pik-ap lainon ka upayog na karen. ve bahut pyaare hain aur ve vaastav mein kaam nahin karate hain. yadi aap ek ladake hain aur aap is baare mein nahin soch sakate ki pik-ap lain ke alaava any kya upayog karana hai, to is lekh ko ek ladakee ke saath talk  shuroo karane ke tareeke par padhen.

7.

Khud ko itanee gambheerata se na len. gambheerata se. yadi aap ek saamaany vyakti kee tarah hain, to aapake crush  ke kareeb hone se aapako paagal ho jaega. aur jab aap is tarah mahasoos karate hain, to aapako achchhee tarah se bevakooph saamaan karane kee sambhaavana hai. jhaadana. yadi aap apane shabdon par yaatra karate hain, to kuchh kahen "vaah. main baat nahin kar sakata. mujhe lagata hai ki ek sundar ladakee ke kareeb hone se aisa hoga." yadi aap apane joote par yaatra karate hain aur vah aapako lene ke lie aata hai, to poochh raha hai, "kya aap theek hain ?!" kuchh kaho "zaroor, mainne vaastav mein socha ki mainne lainding ko kheencha hai."

8.

Ek taareekh ke lie poochhen. agar aapako lagata hai ki talk  achchhee tarah se chal rahee hai, to poochhane mein sankoch na karen ki aapaka crush  phir se kab mukt hai. yah kal dopahar ke bhojan ke samay kuchh bhee ho sakata hai, jo ki philm aur raat ke khaane ke saath ek bahut hee puraanee taareekh hai - aapaka anurodh is baat par nirbhar karega ki aap kitane aatmavishvaas se mahasoos karate hain aur aap kaise baat karate samay crush  karate hain.

• Ek baar jab aap ise soch lenge aur aap bata sakate hain ki ve aapakee roochi rakhate hain, to poochhane kee chinta na karen ki aap isake baad ek-doosare ko kab dekh sakate hain.

9.

Sthiti se avagat rahen. jab aap pahalee baar vaartaalaap shuroo karane ka prayaas karate hain to aapako garmajoshee se svaagat karane kee aavashyakata nahin hotee hai. yadi aapaka crush  disenged ya oob lagata hai, to poochhen ki kya kuchh galat hai; shaayad yah ek bura din raha hai, shaayad unhen apane dimaag mein kuchh mil gaya hai.

• Yadi aapake crush  ko vichalit karane mein koee prateet nahin hota hai aur usake saath usakee pareshaanee abhee bhee badhatee ja rahee hai, to khud ko vinamrataapoorvak kshama karen, jaldee se bachen, aur ek aur din koshish karane par vichaar karen.

10.

Shaantipoorvak asveekaar sambhaal len. yah sambhav hai ki aapaka crush  sirph aapake baare mein vahee mahasoos na kare. yadi aap yah nirdhaarit karate hain ki yah maamala hai, to aap donon abhee bhee baat kar sakate hain, lekin aapako yah sveekaar karana hoga ki aapake beech ek romaantik rishta asambhav hai.

• Kisee aise vyakti ke lie anishchit pyaar mahasoos karane se bhee badatar kuchh bhee nahin hai jo pooree tarah se anajaan hai, isalie yadi aapaka crush  dost-jon aapako bas sveekaar karata hai aur aage badhata hai.